Friday, March 14, 2008


 (This is the only picture I could find right now.  This was waayyy back...circa 1979)

This is one of those blog entries that is kind of hard for me to write.  I have a deep, deep love for my sister Donna.  I like her too (otherwise, she wouldn't be on this blog right?)  Let me tell you about her:

Donna was 15 years old when I was born.  She was like a second mother to me.  She often joked that she really WAS my mother and they had to send her away for a while because of the teenage pregnancy in a small town and all.  I KNOW she was just joking but, in the back of my mind, I have that seed of doubt.  She certainly treated me like a daughter.  When I was growing up, it was like I was stapled to her.  She took me everywhere.  I even went on several dates with her when she was in High School.
I remember her sitting on the basement stairs with me and reading to me.  We read every book we had.  She fed me with books and instilled in me the love of reading that I still have to this day.  She used the best voices and expression as she read to me on those steps.
Shortly after graduating, she moved from Canada to Rexburg, Idaho to attend college.  There she met and married Doyle.  She never came back to Canada and remained in the US to raise her family.  All seven of her children.
From the time I was five years old until I was 14, I spent every single summer with her on her farm in Idaho.  My parents would ship me off to play for two months at my sisters.  She had me doing all kinds of things like cooking, cleaning, babysitting, delivering and selling Avon (I had a wicked banana seat bike that took me for miles on those country roads), making club houses, and helping with the water turns.   In short, I was her summer slave.  And I loved it.  I looked forward to my encampment each year.
As I matured into an adult, our sibling relationship became a true friendship.  I became a single-mother only three years after marriage.  Donna was my biggest supporter as we were the only siblings living in the US.  She took care of my girls when I had surgery, travelled for work, and just whenever I needed her.  I took my girls to Idaho every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter.  We shopped like champions together.  We played the Idaho lottery on every trip.  Our highest winnings were $20 which we used to buy lunch that day.  What memories and what fun.
Two months after I remarried, I was sitting on my bed putting a portfolio together for my husband.  I received a call from my niece Jodi.  She called to tell me that my sweet sister Donna had just been in a terrible car accident on I-15.  A driver had entered the freeway on the wrong side and hit head on into Donna's car.  She was killed instantly.  Part of me died with her.  It was devastating for everyone.   But, we made it through.  I gave her eulogy at the funeral.  I wish I had space here to write the words I said.  But, suffice it to say that I loved her.
Donna was a school bus driver who went all out and decorated it with every child's name (she even let me drive it once!).  The children loved her.  At the procession to the cemetery, each intersection in her small town had a school bus at the stop sign.  It was very special.  She would have loved it...although she wouldn't have liked all the attention.

In closing, I will just mention the things in my life now that will always and forever make me think of my dear sister whenever I see them:
•Diet Pepsi
•Scratch off Lottery tickets
•Slapstick carmel suckers
•Poetry at Easter
•Christmas stockings
•Jet Alert
•Thanksgiving dressing left in the oven 
•Perfect hairdo
•Lipstick with a perfectly pointed tip
•Visa cards
•French bread
•McCormick marshmellow strawberries
•Piano playing
(I may have to add to this list from time to time)


Unknown said...

Oh, Tami. What a sweet tribute.

Rhonda said...

Thank you for sharing those tender thoughts and feelings about our sister. I did not know that she was the one who fostered your love of reading.
I am enjoying your blog very much, Tami. You are a great writer and express your feelings well.
A+ Madame Teacher!!!!

Blake said...

That was really neat, and sweet.

Mandi said...

ok. . .that comment was not from Blake. I was accidentally signed on as him. . . .he he he

Erin said...

So sweet. I remember Donna's death so vividly. It seems strange to think we'd only known each a few months...anyway, this is a beautiful tribute. :)

erikalovesyou said...

When I think of Donna I think Fresca. She always had it in that big, huge mug of hers.

Also, I remember how much she liked country music. Whenever we would go there, I would complain to her about how ugly it was...And she would tell me that it was her goal to make me love it.
Everytime I hear country, it grows on me a little more. Still not a love, though.

I liked this one... I have a lot of great memories of her and I think that you did a great job writing this.

Melissa said...

Oh Tami that was soooo sweet! You have me tearing up again. Love you!

Keri said...

Thank you so much for keeping my mothers memory alive. There is not a day that goes my that I don't think of her. Thanks for reminding me of the little things about her. (like the diet pepsi and carmel slap sticks) You are an amazing woman!

2tontansy said...

Thanks a lot, you made this fat pregnant lady cry. Truly a great tribute for a great lady. We all miss her, and can't wait until the day when we can see her again. I'll bring the Strawberries!!!

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