Monday, May 28, 2012

In Memory...

I've always had a question about Memorial Day.  Is it to honor our fallen soldiers? Yes.  Is it to remember our loved ones who have passed on before us?  Yes.

It's both.  And, as I found out today, it can also be beautiful.  So beautiful that it takes your breath away.

I was the first of the family to arrive at the Provo City Cemetery today.  Usually everyone beats me there because I secretly put it off until the last minute.  Parking was horrendous.  People were everywhere.  Flowers were everywhere.  So were pinwheels, Hot Wheels, teddy bears, leis, flags (oh, the flags), notes, etc.  The feeling of love hit me like a brick the minute I entered the gate.



What a gorgeous day, eh?  I found our newly placed monument for my boyfriend.  His spot is in the adult area between the two babylands.  So sweet. I put my blanket down and sat beside my Terry's final resting place.  I put the gerber daisy plant I had brought in the vase and then turned my ipod on to some Mandy Patinkin music (Terry's favorite) and started the good cry I knew would come.  It only lasted a minute or two.  It felt, oddly, good.  My love for Terry is beyond measure and it was nice to tell him aloud before the girls got there.  I miss him so much.  Life is not the same.  It never will be.


I love when my girls and their husbands meet me.  And of course, Eloise.  I love that little girl.  She is the sunshine that lights up our little lost family.  She always brings happiness...even when she's cranky!  Which isn't very often.  I noticed that all of my photos of Ellee with me at the cemetery look exactly the same.  I don't care.  I love her.  She loves her Bop Bop and is always a good girl at his grave.  Such a happy little girl...in spite of these pictures!  :)


So, our first Memorial Day was successful.  It was lovely even.  The weather was perfect.  The company was perfect.  Having Terry absent wasn't so perfect.  We love him still.


(I may or may not have hid a pocket knife inside the cup at the top of the monument!  None of you better go take it either!)



6 comments:

Lisa King said...

Thanks for sharing sweet Tami! Made me shed a tear for my "udder brudder" as well! Interesting how the years have passed, yet how close we always feel! Where in Canada are you from? Our son in law went to Montreal and Quebec on his mission. Take care my friend! Love ya!

Kathy V said...

Tami,

I have always felt a bit behind when it came to your life -- from those years back when Jon, Alex and Chris were in elementary school to more recently crossing paths with you. Today I feel REALLY behind. I had no idea you lost your dear man. I have been engrossed in coming up to speed and have spent the last hour or more reading blogs about your wonderful time with Terry. Bless you. Thanks for sharing your day.

Kathy Van Wagoner

Rachel said...

Bless you Tami! What a day.....

Kirsten asked me the same question yesterday. What is Memorial Day and why do we celebrate it. Interesting that the word 'celebrate' and "Happy Memorial Day" are words used and yet this post answers that question so beautifully.

We'll keep your little pocket knife secret. You are so funny!!

Marianne said...

Beautiful.

Melissa said...

I'm glad you got to have some time with "him" yesterday. The headstone looks beautiful!

Teachinfourth said...

This was a beautiful post, Tami.

There are days I wish I was near enough some of the graves of family members in the Inland Northwest, but it's a journey I only make once every few years.

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